Thursday, June 18, 2015

My life

I try to not say too much about my personal life ... I do want you to know me, but this is mainly a quilting blog.  I don't like to burden you sweet folks with what happens in all areas of my life.  

My son has a 2 year old daughter from a relationship he was in; he was engaged to be married and it didn't work out.  It has been a tumultuous 3 years and in January he moved back to Michigan to be able to see her.  Without going into detail, the child's mother did not like this and has tried to prevent all contact.  Six months later, he finally got a positive ruling and has visitation of his daughter.  It is supervised visitation, and in 4 months they go back to mediation to
review.  I am hoping at that point he has regular visitation and some form of shared custody.

This has been such a hard thing in our family; we have a granddaughter that we have little contact with.  I have visited her 3 times, my husband only once.  I send her things all the time, but once my son ended the relationship, and moved back there in January, our family was cut off pretty much.  I get hardly any videos or pics from mom, and no contact anymore from the grandparents.  Of course I have hurt feelings ... But I made an important realization this last week.  All I want is a relationship with my granddaughter; the rest of the stuff is just stuff.  I will do whatever I need to do to have a relationship with Kylee; if I have to see mom, I will; if I have to see grandparents, I will.  I know we all love this little girl ... I just want her to be a part of my family.  I don't know why people do what they do ... I choose to forgive and move on.  Hopefully my actions towards mom make it easier for her to accept that Kylee has family that love her and she can see that that is a good thing.  Don't get me wrong ... I have wanted to tell her off and stand up for my son.  In the end I realized it might make me feel better, but won't really change anything.!!  It's hard to be the bigger person; it's hard to be the voice of reason in your entire family!  But I know what is most important .. It's that little girl that is 2, that needs her daddy in her life.  She doesn't care about any of this other stuff ... She needs her entire family to love and be in her life.  I had the best grandmother in the world!  That's all I want to be, and I am!  Family is more important ... Yesterday my son finally saw his daughter for the first time since October, and after six months of battling and court appearances, etc.  it's going to be a long and probably bumpy road, but I know she is worth it!

1 comment:

Amy, a redeemed sheep said...

I know the heartache of having a grandchild you don't get to see. I have two. One grandson who is three who I have seen 3 times and not since he was an infant, and a granddaughter who is turning 2 on the 23rd. I have seen her maybe 6 or 7 times. The grandson loves in another state, so that seems easier, for lack of a better word. My granddaughter lives here in town. Breaks my heart to be missing out

Good on your son for doing what it takes to get to have a relationship with his little girl. It will matter to her to know he fought for her.